Love according to the Greeks

He loves pizza. She loves her boyfriend. They love to read. We use the word love so often. We use it to describe how we feel toward everything from our favorite t-shirt to our family.

According to World English, the word love is the 387th most used word in the English language. That may not seem like much, but it puts it into perspective when you compare it to the estimated 1,025,110 words in the English language.

In the Greek language, there are at least six different words for love. And they each have a different meaning.

 

  1. Eros: Romantic love

This is love that Hollywood continually exposes us to. Passionate, intense love.

 

  1. Philia: Friendship

Philia is the love between two friends. It grows deeper as the friendship deepens.

 

  1. Ludus: Playful, fun love

Young lovers love each other this way. Ludus love is characterized by flirting and careless teasing. It is not necessarily very deep.

  1. Agape: Love for all

Agape means love for everyone or just humanity in general. Sometimes it isn’t even for people you know personally.

 

  1. Pragma: Enduring love

This love is primarily seen in couples married for many years. Their love has not diminished over time.

 

  1. Philautia: Love of self

Philautia is loving yourself. There is healthy philautia and there is unhealthy philautia. The unhealthy type, which is easier to spot, can show itself through arrogance and self-importance. The healthy type being able to love and be confident in yourself.

Love can mean so many different things. The one word we have in the English language to describe this emotion is simply not enough to convey all these different types.